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Jun-7-2005 08:09

i was out of town this past weekend on a church outing. I had ben talking to my best friend about her choices and she chose drugs over jesus like the song . i came home to a dead best friend. do any of ya'll know anything to help take my mind off of it? what is ya'lls thoughts on suicide?

Jun-7-2005 08:13

what!?

Jun-7-2005 08:13

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, Angel. This is surely a difficult time for you. Drug use and suicide (I too have had a friend die via both) is a terrible way to die. When my friend passed, I remember feeling frustrated and confused as to why he would choose that path when he was such a wonderful person. He just didn't see himself that way and was unable to accept a healthier path to knowing and loving himself. I hope you have other mutual friends that can support you through this time, and maybe you can come to some kind of understanding together. Best wishes to you.

Jun-7-2005 08:18

i apologise angel i didn't realise your friend had passed

Jun-7-2005 08:29

thanks for ya'lls concerns and care and please keep in prayer.

Jun-7-2005 09:02

Angel,

My deepest sympathies with you and those you love. My father commited suicide when I was 13. I'm sending you a PM, but the best advice I can give is to not try to deal with this on your own. Your parents, the leaders of your church, let them help you, as difficult as that may be. You'll only prolong your grief if you hold it in.

Jun-7-2005 09:28

I'm very sorry about your friend Angel! My prayers are with you!!

Jun-7-2005 09:58

I am so sorry, this is very very very tough. Though I do not regard myself expert on this matter, I have in the past year lost 2 good friends to suicide. And have struggled with accepting their choices. This is a tad bit personal to me, but as I know how it feels, maybe I can save you a bit of trouble around this. I agree with CFM, if this turns in to an issue that is more then simply the loss of a friend, I suggest you do talk to an expert. We spend a lot of money, taking care of our bodies in the beauty parlor and the gym and clothes. Like our bodies are brains need maintenance ever so often as well. (And this coming from someone who was dead set against therapy, and always said...it is not for me.) The reason why CFM is so dead in what she says, I held in grief (and anger) for many years. And I have seen what it can do to you.

First all.
1. The choice your friend made is her own. There is nothing you could have done. This is because the decision to suicide is such a big one, so big, that there is nothing you could have done.
2. It is hard to understand why someone makes a decision like that. This is in a way a good thing. The thing is someone who makes this type of decision, as something in their head that they can not escape. Call it a thought process, that is wrong to start with. For whatever reason that may be mental illness, drugs or whatever. It is this thought process, that tells them...this is the best choice.
3. I used to think suicide was a really sellfish act. Now that I have seen people do it. I have changed my thinking in this. In what I explained under number 2, in their weighing of pro's and con's in their mind that is sick they have considered other people. But came up with the conclusion everybody would be better off.
4. Seek comfort that your friend is with the angels, in a better place then on earth where they were so tormented. Tormented so badly point, that they were willing to commit the one thing that against the biggest force that

Jun-7-2005 10:00

is within all of us...which is to survive. She could no longer survive.
5. Some religions say that suicide is bad. But the god embraces every one of us. And could have facilitated her choice. he takes people for mysterious reasons. That are not up to us to question.

Hang in there. And I am sorry.

Jun-7-2005 10:16

thanks everyone the only person she wrote a note to was myself. and in it she asked for me to take her son and raise him as if she would have. i am now the only person jameson has here.

Jun-7-2005 10:20

i am so scared but yall helped me to realize what i have been telling others for years. God knows what he is doing now do i have the courage to let him do it his way or am i selfish?