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Anetta LeBlanc
Anetta LeBlanc

Jul-12-2006 21:11

My boyfriend called to break up with me, and he left a lot of questions unanswered. Is it alright to call him, and if it is, is the day after alright to call?


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Ruth Steele
Ruth Steele

Jul-12-2006 21:15

I mean, do you already have an idea of what to say and ask?


Della Devine
Della Devine
Well-Connected

Jul-13-2006 02:25

Anetta, you do have a right to some closure in this. (although that doesn't mean you will get it) You can call him and ask those unasked questions. However, have a list of the questions you want answers to before you dial that number. He may try to evade your questions and change the subject several times.

There is also a good probability that he simply isn't prepared or willing at all to answer those questions. No amount of asking, badgering or hounding will bring you any closer to the truth. So, be prepared for that.

It is a hurtful thing to be 'dumped' let alone to not know why. To be honest though, sometimes knowing why doesn't make it any easier. If he lays the 'blame' at your feet then you are well rid of him. Walk away and don't look back. If he puts it all on himself, he's probably lying to make it easier. But, that's the most you're gonna get. If he gives you honest reasons, then listen to them, but don't try to convince him and/or yourself that you can change to make it better or make it work. It's the wrong reason to change.

Short version: yes, you can call him. Call him once. As for what to ask... Why? What is the reason he feels that the relationship needed to end. End of story. All you need to know. Don't prolong the agony.

Reese Withers
Reese Withers
Well-Connected

Jul-13-2006 11:45

I agree with Della!

It is ok to call him to try to find closure, but, I really doubt you will find it with him. if he wasn't man enough to tell you the reason he was breaking up with you, then it is doubtful he will answer any of your questions. However, if u must call him, do it only once, as Della said, then after that, leave it alone.

You may not realize it now, but, he is replaceable! (I say that from plenty of experience) There are more fish in the sea ;) Good luck!



Anetta LeBlanc
Anetta LeBlanc

Jul-13-2006 20:33

Thank you all! Now that I look back on the relationship, I realized that we weren't very compatible in the first place.

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