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A Plea Regarding Goofballs
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Moonshh
Moonshh
Well-Connected

Dec-31-2004 18:55

Engaging the conversation of people who post really off-topic and annoying things does not seem helpful and only brings their threads to the top.

I encourage everyone to ignore goofballs.

It may not stop them, but then they will have only themselves to talk to, which can't be nearly as much fun as needling others.



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reda
reda
Well-Connected

Jan-3-2005 06:39

I understand what u mean. I do support not posting when someone is wildley accusing others or talking about stuff that should just be talked to ben privetly. But if u talk about the movie posts, I think the reaction of People here was very exagurated. The lounge is for chit chat and ppl can say what they want. I really didnt get why you would be offended by that. I also didnt get their conversation, but I just dont care. I think telling them not to do it is over the top and just palin bossy. If you dont get it or dont like it, just ignore it.
Telling someone to write their post in a different board is something else. Sometime you need to point newbies to the newbie board for example. Or ask them to search better. Thats totaly ok, everyones need to learn. But in the last weeks some of us "oldies" incl. me (sorry) are getting a bit too bossy. We shouldnt forget that althogh we were here long before we were also new once and we dont "own" this community.
I hope you understand what I mean, but feel free to shout back if I didnt get the point ;)

Faeryshan
Faeryshan
Old Shoe

Jan-3-2005 06:55

I agree that letting people talk about whatever they want to is the topic of this board. That's fine, I enjoy the off-topic threads here. Most of the time.
But when two people are having a conversation back and forth, and it turns into these messy and childish threads that we've seen A LOT of lately, don't we have to say something? I personally think it's getting out of hand. I think that we all jump all over a new person starting what appears to be a pointless thread because we see where it MIGHT go, which is jumping to negative conclusions on most of the old-timers' parts here.
Maybe we are getting too bossy. But maybe we're also trying to cut down on the b.s. that goes on around here. Yes, I could avoid reading all the threads that don't appeal to me, but how many threads are self-explanatory by the subject line? They start out as one thing and turn into something completely different, like the one about the newsletters.
So yes, a post about liking movies would have been fine if it had been presented in a different way. That's my (ever-vocal and critical) opinion.

sunny
sunny
Lady of Shadows

Jan-3-2005 10:52

true, true.

cfmdec
cfmdec

Jan-3-2005 11:16

All right, if I offened anyone by telling bozo to buzz off, I am sorry. I was, and am, still rather upset at his post. I get very irritated with people who take light of something that effected my entire life and being. And truely, there was no point in his thread except to be irritating.

I think Faeryshan has stated this in a more diplomatic way than I could possibly do. Do you really want NO limits? A conversation is one thing, but that garbage was no where close to being a conversation.

Anyway, sorry if I made anyone mad. Perhaps I allowed my anger to get in the way of my Judgement.

Faeryshan
Faeryshan
Old Shoe

Jan-3-2005 11:55

Cfmdec, I certainly wasn't offended- that was obviously a very touchy subject for you and I honestly think you have a right to your feelings on that. We all have our breaking points (we know that mine is when children come on this site and try to chat nonsensical abbreviations on PM) and this is something that you feel very strongly about.

jstkdn
jstkdn
Well-Connected

Jan-3-2005 13:36

I don't think anyone has offended anyone yet. :) Well although I can understand that cfmdec has a right to be offended with the schizo thread. I would be too.

I definitely think there is a "here we go again" element to it, like Faery said.

There are always posts that people will not be interested in, while others do. There are posts some people take offense to, others don't. Some find over the line, others will not.
Some things are clearly over the line, some everybody gets annoyed with. Judging Reda's comment, again a situation where some found it over the line, others not. What I do find over the line, is having this iffy stuff, in several threads like Psychotic did (which usually leads to this coming in to more and more threads.)

reda
reda
Well-Connected

Jan-4-2005 06:58

what she said ;)

Jojo
Jojo
Old Shoe

Jan-4-2005 17:11

I think I have to go back to reda's past post and comment.

I think that many of us "oldies" (as you put it) have NOT been TOO bossy. Yes, we do need to keep ourselves in line, but we know how things are run around here and I think we have the DUTY to comment on certain things.

I posted in the Phsychotic thread only because I thought it was offensive and it was just not a necessary thread. I think I MAY have been out of line in a few of my posts, but if I don't post and make things stop, WHO WILL?!?!

(I think that maybe Ben should add 'moderators' to the forums. This would help keep things organized and in order)

Also, about the whole "off-topic" thing, we need to have set boundaries. I coming in and just saying "I had chicken for dinner." is not a necessary comment. It is just POINTLESS. There needs to be some line for the topic of threads.

(Cfm, I know you quite well, and I found your post NECESSARY. I don't think it was offensive in any way)

jstkdn
jstkdn
Well-Connected

Jan-4-2005 17:48

Jojo, I thought it was over the line too. But Reda is entitled to have an opinion. I would agree that it is for an oldbie, easier to comment, safety of agency, and friends in the community. I think Reda's bossy statement comes from the fact that she felt the post was not over the line. As you and me commented, the bossy thing would apply to me as well. I can not tell she is wrong, as I am called bossy IRL as well, so I would not be at all surprised to manifest the same behaviour here.

However, although I don't think I have been bossy. I however see Reda's comment as an advise from a fellow newbie, and something I feel I should watch for. And not so much as an attack.

Was Reda out of line with the bossy statement. If coming from some others, I would not be happy with it. But this comes from someone I respect, whom tends to not attack. And if you friends don't tell you the truth....

Jojo
Jojo
Old Shoe

Jan-4-2005 17:54

I am sorry how that came across. I fully respect and understand her opinion. But I think that we do have the right to be bossy when we need to be. Not bossy as in: "Don't do that! Do this!", but bossy as in: "I think we should do this, because (insert explanation)."

I didn't seem to come across that way, and now I see that I did.

I don't think reda was at all out of line. She has the right to say that and she is right! I was just saying that I think we need to take leadership when we need to.

(Sorry!)

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